Does Bad Grammar Ruin Sexting?

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Does Bad Grammar Ruin Sexting?

"You're" vs. "Your," some people will never get it right.

I guess you could say I'm into 'sexting.' I like to talk dirty over text messages, probably because I'm so bad at it in-person. And right now I'm with a guy who likes it too, but there's a problem: he has horrible spelling and grammar. He's always saying stuff like, "Your so hot." Maybe I'm lame for caring about the difference between 'your' and 'you're' but it totally takes me out of the mood. We'll be getting really into it, and then he'll misspell a big word, and I cringe. Am I the only one who lets bad grammar ruin sexting? --Carlie, 22

Jessie says: Well, we caught and killed Osama. So I guess it's back to sex questions? Life goes on...

I try to be a grammar purist. I avoid texting and emailing with people who have terrible grammar and spelling when I can help it. I'd even go so far as to NOT date someone who has poor spelling and grammar. If they can't tell the difference between 'you're' and 'your,' or 'their,' 'there,' and 'they're,' it's the end of the line.

I had a friend who was so poor with spelling that when we chatted on AIM, I always thought she was drunk. But she wasn't. She just had problems with the King's English.

So now you can see, Carlie, you're (correct spelling) a woman after my own heart. I enjoy the occasional sex text as well, and if someone effed up the grammar, I'd kick them to the curb faster than Charlie Sheen can say 'winning.'

I think you should dump this guy. I'm sorry if that makes me sound cruel, but I think one of the most telling signs of a person's intelligence is the extra attention they put into the way they write. Save your valuable monthly texts for someone who cares as much about grammar as you do.

Kyle says: This is an interesting debate, since 'sexting' isn't even a word, but I get it. I think the real issue is, one of you doesn't give a crap because you're in the heat of the moment, and you don't want to take the time to deal with your phone's auto-correct (boyfriend). While the other person...that would be you, Carlie...is insecure about talking dirty in the first place, so the slightest thing throws you off.

I think you should get over it, and just be dirty, because it's not like this guy is trying to be ghetto. He just doesn't care, or even know that it bothers you. But that's not really good advice, because if you could get over it, you would.

How about this: does your boyfriend's crap spelling happen in all his messages, or just the sexting ones? I'm guessing it's all the time. So, tell him to deal, but without bringing up the issue of how it throws you off when you're trying to be playful. That could make HIM feel insecure. Make it an issue about texting, not sexting, and see what happens. No need to dump him for his week grammer just yet. (Get it?)

What do people think? Is dirty talk really the right time to split hairs?

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